What is self-confidence? How to be confident? What are the ways to increase self-confidence? High self-confidence is one of the most essential steps to success. Many successful people have achieved their goals and dreams by building self-confidence step by step.
Most of these people believe that unless a person thinks positively about himself, he cannot expect others to think positively about him. The only creator of our self-confidence is ourselves. Looking at successful people, we realize that they never depended on anyone for their success, nor did they wait for others’ approval.
By building self-confidence, we can prove that we are worthy of what we intend to achieve. Let’s review a vital principle: how we see ourselves is more important than how others look. If we don’t try to love and accept who we are, no one else will think about it.
Let’s look at the matter from another angle. Have you ever felt like you don’t care about others? Let’s think about how often we have seen a handsome person in a group of friends or in a cafe where we spend time, but we have forgotten him because of needing a new word or a unique ability. Or conversely, how many times have we met entirely ordinary people who became one of the most lovable people in our lives because of their ability to build confidence or the minor thing they added to our abstract possessions?
We will realize we all have had such experiences if we think a little.
More than a thousand people aged 21 to 54 participated in a survey of one of the magazines on mental and physical health. Based on the results obtained from this online survey, most participants believed that the characteristics of a person’s personality and morals are much more attractive and exciting than their physical and appearance characteristics.
With a simple search, we reach numerous similar surveys that show that the first desirable quality in their minds is self-confidence, regardless of the gender of the participants. On average, appearance and physical characteristics were not even among the top 10 parts of voters.
But what should be done to build self-confidence? How to develop and strengthen this valuable feature. When we know that the beauty of thoughts and how we look at ourselves is much more important than physical beauty, what path should we take to get it? Remember that building self-confidence is not only an important way to attract others, but it is also the best way to feel good about yourself.
Identify your unique strengths.
The first step to building self-confidence is to believe in yourself. Accept that you are unique. In the words of Walt Whitman, the famous poet of the 19th century, “You are here, and your life and identity are flowing. And you will leave your unique impact on the mighty game of life.”
No one on the planet looks precisely like you. No one was born with the same abilities as you. No one has your talents, abilities, experiences, and perspective. All this belongs only to you. Remember that you are unique and were born to leave your distinctive mark on the universe.
If each of us focuses on our impact on the world around us, we will understand how low and worthless concepts of comparison, envy, or regret are in our lives. Concepts that we should not only apply to those around us but also not allow anyone to apply them to us. Remember that we are born to make our unique impact on the mighty game of life.
Be your best
You feel great about yourself when you put all your effort into doing things, achieving your goals, and getting the desired result. One way to build self-confidence is to strive to be the best.
Using all your abilities and knowledge to achieve your goal will help you gain double self-confidence and get the desired result. This good feeling allows you not to be afraid to take risks and step beyond the safe zone of habits (Comfort Zone).
We all face many problems and obstacles to achieving our goals and dreams. Financial, social, and geographical conditions can always hinder our desired result. But remember that issues like this should uphold your confidence.
One of the most important ways to build self-confidence and keep it is to persevere and not stop trying. Look at these problems as bitter but healing medicines. These obstacles can be problems and opportunities to strengthen your abilities and skills. Keep your patience. The power of patience can soften any tempered steel in your hands like wax.
You must have seen that out of hundreds and sometimes thousands of people who start a marathon race, only a few reach the finish line. Never stop trying to reach the finish line.
Overcome the feeling of sadness
Overcoming bad thoughts and feelings of misery will help you build confidence and quickly turn it into a sense of empowerment. The most famous pieces of music, the greatest works of art, and the masterpieces of the world of literature have been created by those who have experienced the depth of despair, loss, and emptiness of everything and then defeated these concepts.
Experiencing grief and loss of possessions and then trying to overcome and compensate for them increases self-confidence, gains hope, and gains victory. These experiences and their compensation can make you a more flexible and capable being than before.
Try not to get used to being sad. Turn the feeling of failure into the fuel that drives your life. Each of us should be able to rise again from the ashes like a phoenix and try to start again with double strength.
Finish the way you started
Once the goal is defined, force yourself to follow its path. When you set a goal for yourself and work hard to achieve it, you unconsciously take decisive steps toward building and increasing your self-confidence. This method makes you tireless, powerful, and in control of the situation around you.
You know well what experiences and expertise you have worked hard to acquire. This effort, sometimes associated with enduring many problems, will help you finally reach your desired goal and get the desired result.
Separate yourself from what you are perceived to be
Your identity is a separate concept from what happens to you. Even this identity is miles away from what others think about you. In other words, you are not defined by what happens to you on your way to success.
Remember, it doesn’t matter what others think of you or how they see you. Your identity is what you decide to create. Your personality, dignity, and identity are made only by your own hands.
Don’t let the events of the surrounding world and how others view you negatively impact your path to achieving your goals. Building self-confidence is done only by yourself.
Face your fears
Nothing can destroy your confidence like giving in to your fears. All of us have felt fear at various times. As the most advanced creatures in the universe, we can stand against problems by strengthening the power of courage.
Using the weapon of courage and facing your fears is one of the primary and essential ways to build self-confidence and give it strength. You must free yourself from the dark prison of fear.
If you are afraid of meeting new people or being in public, collect all your positive energy and escape from this toxic atmosphere. Breaking down the walls of fear helps tremendously in building confidence.
Undoubtedly, you will not feel good in the first encounter with fears and exposure to new situations. But as soon as you get used to the new condition, you will feel incredible and lovely about yourself.
Do not be fooled by the attractive appearance of people
Many of the most attractive people in the world suffer from low self-esteem.
You must have heard the name “Marilyn Monroe” or at least seen one of her photos and videos. This American actor, who is known as one of the most attractive actors in cinema, has suffered from a severe lack of self-confidence. She has often been quoted that she never had a positive image and a good feeling towards herself. She constantly and wrongly needed false factors, such as the approval of others, to gain a sense of satisfaction and determine her worth.
It’s strange for us how one of the most beautiful and successful movie actors has fallen into the trap of this bad feeling. But remember that an attractive appearance can only give us a good sense temporarily and until the approval of others, and more is needed to build valuable and efficient self-confidence.
Take good care of yourself
You have done the most to build self-confidence when you are fit and physically healthy. Although we said before that proper appearance alone cannot help build and empower self-confidence when this characteristic is combined with other essentials for building self-confidence, it can be very useful and efficient.
Your excellent and well-groomed appearance is not supposed to be compared to others. This characteristic should give you peace and create a good mood in you. Everyone looks attractive when they are healthy and fit.
When you take good care of your health, fitness, and appearance, you subconsciously create a positive and powerful feeling in yourself, which can significantly affect building self-confidence and empowering it.
Learn to motivate yourself
We all have experienced bad moments in our life. There have been many moments of doubt, confusion, and distress in our lives, and we have felt defeated and miserable in such times. We must learn how to regain and rebuild our confidence when these negative emotions arise.
One way to rebuild the lost self-confidence in such a situation is to know that many people have been in such a situation many times, and only people who have been able to taste the sweet taste of success have saved themselves from this danger with hard work and perseverance.
Another way is to look at past successes and remember our unique and unique abilities and strengths. Our special skills help us to achieve the desired result.
Remember that building self-confidence and empowering are necessary to achieve any goal. But remember that this concept is by no means an inherent characteristic. We must earn it with effort, learning, patience, and endurance.