Whether we like it or not, sooner or later, we all enter middle age and grow old. It may sound cliché, but there are things you shouldn’t do if you’re in your forties. At thirty and above, some events are inevitable for many people. Gaining weight, giving up, replacing everyday life with some dreams, and decreasing motivation to carry out our life plans. But getting older should not be a reason to change the road map and beautiful life we probably imagined for ourselves in our teenage years. You can still follow your dreams and aspirations despite bad habits and negative inspirations. In the following, we point out the points that paying attention to at the age of 30 can help to make the path clearer and smoother.
Avoid the need to know everything
Modern education traps us all in the necessity of learning everything so that if you finished high school and even went to university, it doesn’t mean you know everything. In the same way, you are presented with a process of incomplete knowledge that does not even matter how difficult it is to learn. But you should be aware that you don’t know everything, and you can never know everything. It is the unknowns that prompt you to discover and experience.
Choose a job that interests you
It doesn’t matter how much you earn from your job, what side benefits you get from it, or how many years of work experience you have. If you don’t like your job, you won’t be satisfied with yourself. This does not mean you should resign from your current position, but it is essential to realize that at 30, you are doing something you are not interested in doing and commit your life to that job at 40. Changing jobs or even changing career is a good thing. Job satisfaction and enjoyment of what you do is more important than the amount of income.
Avoid staying at home
Whether you are sitting at a desk, whether you spend your time watching TV, or whether you use fatigue as an excuse to do less work, all three make you spend much time on the spot. After age 20, our body’s metabolism changes so that if we get fat, it will be more difficult for us to return to the correct weight at 30. So love yourself more and take care of your body. There are plenty of excuses for not exercising, but if you can’t stick to a healthy weight plan after age 30, you’ll blame yourself for not taking care of yourself when you were younger, and it was easier to lose weight.
Do not forget your dreams
Entering the age of thirty and passing the third decade of life does not mean forgetting the big dreams you have in your head. The common perception is that only young people can have the potential to dream and fulfill their dreams. But the fact is that many people over 30 years old are changing the world every day, and their motivation point has been their dreams. For example, Colonel Sanders founded KFC when he was 60 years old. Stan Lee, the creator of Marvel, started writing comic stories when he was 40. Increasing age comes with experience and wisdom; What is necessary to follow and make dreams come true.
Stay away from your family and friends as much as possible
As time passes, we have less contact with our families and friends. If you are in your 30s, your parents are probably in their 50s or 60s. Remember that life has an end. One of the biggest regrets of many people is realizing that they didn’t spend much time with their family after their loved ones died. With this background, spending more time with your family and friends is strongly recommended before it is too late. The only way to change this situation is to stay close to family and friends and keep in touch with them.
Never think that the best years of your life are over
If you like your twenties more, you probably spent most of your time partying, having fun, and going out at night, and now that you are in your 30s and more, you feel that all those happy times are over and will never happen again.
But this feeling depends on your way of thinking. It will be true if you regret and think that the good times are gone and will never happen again. But if you focus on the moments and think about the joys you will encounter, you can enjoy every moment. So have a forward-looking view and think positively.
Avoid extravagance
According to economists, if you want to retire at age 65, you should start saving at age 25. Such a thing requires compliance with essential components, but the best way to guarantee its implementation is not to overspend. We live in a materialistic world, and buying things makes us feel good. But on the condition that we feel good about spending less after shopping.
In the 20s, most expenses include small purchases and transportation, cafes, and similar things. But the main costs in the 30s include buying a car or a house. Learning to live frugally is a challenging task. Spending less is more complex when you have enough money, but it will only be a smooth retirement if you do.
Don’t be angry
Holding grudges against others will not hurt anyone but yourself. Hating a job or a friend does nothing but create negative energy and make your life more boring. Long-term discomfort with the situation does not improve the situation; the longer such a state is, the more harmful it affects you and your life.
Long-term sadness and anger may not have much impact on the whole life of teenagers, but when you reach your thirties, you have to learn to forgive and forget more and better. Otherwise, you will always be a person who enjoys lifeless because adverse events and memories trap you.
Forget your high school personality
It is easy for those who had few friends during that period to forget high school. But if you are one of those popular and well-known people in high school, it’s hard to let go of your high school character.
The reality is that in your fourth decade, almost no one cares or cares about what you were like in high school. It doesn’t matter what sports or academic achievements you achieved in high school. Even if you currently have a fit and desirable body, it has nothing to do with being an athlete in high school.
Living with the memories of the past could be more favorable and suitable for continuing your path, especially if you had a proud period in high school and want to refer to that period mentally. Rid yourself of the good memories of high school and change your outlook to a more serious life. In this case, you can be someone others care about because of yourself and not your student history.
Do not stay in one place as much as possible
It’s okay to become part of a local community and put your roots down in a city or part of a city. But a significant difference exists between not leaving home and working for a long time.
Staying within a 50-kilometer radius of your city throughout your life will not help you gain new experiences. On the other hand, leisure and business trips now and then can give you a better perspective on life. The longer the trip, the more experiences are gained. How many people have you ever met who ultimately complain about traveling? And how many people have you seen regretting missing travel opportunities?
Don’t get caught up in everyday life
When you’re younger, life is constantly changing, but as you’ve gotten older, you’ve probably found a full-time job and unconsciously engaged in dangerous routines. Wake up in the morning, probably shower, go to work, spend eight hours at work, go home, eat dinner, watch TV, and sleep so you can repeat the process the following day.
Some people fall into this trap until retirement and even after. Although creating routine structures can be helpful and help you increase productivity, your entire life shouldn’t fall into a repetitive loop. Try to make exciting challenges for yourself to avoid these routines and enjoy life more while gaining new experiences.
Have different and contradictory points of view
Anyone can have their own opinion about anything. The world of fashion, sports, global warming, or even political issues may be topics on which people have different views. People’s opinions have nothing to do with facts but are formed and transmitted based on rumors and hearsay.
But insisting on a negative opinion is not a logical thing. In this case, you are only hard on yourself, and in the eyes of others, you are considered a one-toothed person and, of course, a fool. Instead of expressing weird and prejudiced opinions, keeping your thoughts to yourself is better.
Don’t care about people’s thoughts and words
If no one cares what you think, you shouldn’t waste your time worrying about what they believe. It is human nature to want to attract other people’s opinions, but this should not mean changing our behavior and nature to attract others’ attention. When you’re young, if someone calls you ugly or stupid, you might be hurt by their words for a few weeks, but as you get older, you have to learn to ignore other people’s thoughts and comments.
Remember that everyone has their own opinion. If you want to listen to everyone’s opinion, you won’t have time to think about your ideas and opinions.
Give up your bad habits
We humans unconsciously tend to have habits that are not healthy for our bodies and even our mind. Eating unhealthy foods, smoking, lack of sleep, and many other things fall into this category.
Our body is still young in the second decade of life and can keep us upright and healthy despite such bad habits. But as we age, our bodies also age and these bad habits show their effects in life. If you look carefully around you, you will see that, for example, not everyone who smokes gets lung cancer, but those who continue to smoke for a long time age faster than others.
There are no bad habits that you want to carry with you as you enter your thirties. If you’re in your thirties or forties and have a terrible habit, it’s not too late to quit. Leave bad habits behind.
Don’t think you have to give up
Many of your friends may be married and even have children by now. But this does not necessarily mean that you should also step on the same path and move forward. If you are not really at a stage in your life where you are ready for marriage, it is better not to get involved because the general atmosphere of society suggests such a thing.
This point is the same for other issues. Do it if you are thinking of changing jobs, going on a vacation, moving to a new place, or anything unique and can afford it. But it is not logical to limit or force yourself to do something because of what people say or the custom of society. You should never think you have to follow a particular system; no rule says at what age you should do what. It would help if you did it whenever you saw a situation suitable for a specific task.
Enjoy your thirties. You still have much work ahead of you. You can spend the rest of your life doing a job you don’t love, forgetting all your dreams, and wallowing in your bad habits, or you can put yourself on a path to success, health, and intelligent, helpful decisions in your thirties.
All this depends on you, how and with what quality and speed you want to continue the journey. No one is more influential in directing this path than you. The choice is yours.
