Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
If you’re struggling with this question, you may be an ambivert.
This guide will help you discover if this is the case, what it means for you, and the benefits of being ambiverts.
Ambiverts have also been called:
Outgoing introverts: An introvert who can be outgoing in certain situations, around certain people, or when they absolutely need to.https://www.scienceofpeople.com/ambivert/
Antisocial extroverts: An extrovert who needs time to recharge before socializing, or who likes to be alone more than a typical extrovert.
Social introverts: An introvert who can dial up into extroversion when needed.
What is Ambivert?
An ambivert is someone who has both introverted and extroverted traits.
Ambiverts are in the middle of the extraversion continuum. Carl Jung was the first to discuss this “middle ground” between introversion and extroversion.
Also, although Jung did not use the exact word “ambivert,” he states that the ambivert makes up a large portion of the population.
More recently, Adam Grant supported Jung’s theory, as about two-thirds of Jung’s study participants were neither introverted nor extroverted.
Extroversion is a spectrum.
Extraversion, like many other psychological traits, is a continuum.
And what Jung and Grant discovered makes a lot of sense when you think about it. Most distribution curves have more people in the middle of the spectrum than at the ends. However, numbers can be deceiving here.
Those in the actual middle, who we might call “pure ambiverts,” may not be the majority – maybe 20% of the population.
And most people still gravitate toward one end of the spectrum.
Therefore, it is essential to recognize the direction they tend the most.
What is Ambivert trait?
“It depends” can be frustrating, right?
You’re looking for an answer, but instead of a clear black-and-white answer, you get a nasty noncommittal “it depends.”
Welcome to life in the Ambiverse.
Both introverts and extroverts can communicate whether a social situation is enjoyable or overwhelming, but for introverts, it depends.
Extroverts are energized by their social environment and want and look forward to socializing. • Introverts lose energy from social situations and prefer quiet time and solitude. They crave their time.
You may crave alone time. Also, being alone for long periods makes it difficult to “get used” to people and social environments. But once warmed up, ambivert can love social interaction. And they look forward to meeting and interacting with new people.
Signs That You`re an Ambivert
Here are some statements that ambiverts would agree to.
- Enjoy a party, but then want to go home.
- Like attention.. sometimes, depending on the context and mood
- Enjoy conversation (like extroverts) but not so much small talk (like introverts)
- Find it difficult sometimes to assert me
- Can be very reserved in some situations
- Prefer meeting new people with people that I know around
- Can find me in both extroversion and introversion descriptions
- Am excited about going to social events but find it a bit intimidating in the beginning
- Enjoy lone time, but it can get too much after a few days
- Think before I speak (unlike extroverts), but don`t have problems putting thoughts into words (like introverts)
- Adapt to the people around (listen to talkers and talk more with silent people)
- Can get lost in a conversation (like an extrovert) as much as in my thoughts (introverts)
- Sometimes mistrust people, but other times I can open up very easily
If you can recognize yourself with many of the above statements then, yes, chances are that you’re an ambivert.
What is the Ambivert advantage?
For a long time, I considered extroverts to be an advantage over introverts.
After all, people are essential to success, and if you love interacting with people, then it’s easier for extroverts to make friends and build alliances, right? No, it’s not.
Ambidirectional people can get along well with people.
Being in the middle of the spectrum makes it easier to understand, fit in, and interact with.
As we saw in our guide to finding the perfect roommate, it’s very easy for introverts and extroverts to hate each other.
You understand and get along with everyone. This makes them more likely to be social chameleons, connecting and connecting with people.
Larry Kim found that ambiverts are more malleable and better at shaping context and situations. Ambiverts are also available:
- Emotionally stable: Psychologist Hans Eysenck, who first used the term “ambivert,” says to avoid extreme hypersensitivity in introverts and overdominance in extroverts.
- Socially Intuitive: Daniel Pink said he had a better intuition about social subtleties, such as when to speak, when to listen, when to push, and when to back off. Mukaigata says:
- Resilience: Both extroverts and introverts struggle in environments that don’t suit them, whereas ambiverts thrive in difficult social situations and being alone for long periods. I can do it.
- Empathic: Sitting in the middle makes understanding both introverts and extroverts easier. This ability tends to reduce the undiverted judgment.
Think of a job that most people think has to do with people. If you’re good at connecting with people, you have to be good at it.
Extroverts are usually considered the best candidates for sales positions. Instead, one study found that ambiverts made 24% more sales than introverts and a whopping 32% more than extroverts.
Having been in sales for several years and seeing all types of salesperson personalities, my guess is Extroverts who are preoccupied with the socialization process focus too much on socialization rather than sales. Also, because extroverts are so eager to talk, they are ill-suited to getting to know prospects and marketing them in ways that meet their needs.
So you fall in love with your voice and monopolize the conversation. They overwhelm prospects, don’t listen enough, and don’t position their products to customer needs.
On the other hand, according to Grant, Ambivert strikes a better balance between enthusiasm, assertiveness, and the inherent need to listen that comes with a good sales process.
Adam Grant also did a meta-study on the relationship between extraversion and income, which resulted in no relationship. What Influences Your Ambitions
As an ambivert, perhaps moving up and down the extrovert scale. Some factors that influence extraversion are:
- How well do you know people?
- How “sociable” you are
- Who is around you (you probably prefer famous people)
- Time spent alone
- How long have you been socializing?
Depending on the situation and mood changes, you may be more extroverted or more introverted.
Can i become an ambivert?
I can do it
Given that ambivalence has multiple benefits, you probably want to do it.
I was originally an introvert, but now I’m moving toward the ambivert middle class.
And I’m not alone. I have read more people experiencing the same development.
I still love my time in peace. But I also look forward to socializing, especially if the audience has someone I know and like.
But now that I’ve learned to socialize well, I also love interacting with strangers. I sometimes look forward to making new acquaintances and entering new social worlds. You can switch from extrovert to extrovert, but the following tips are more suitable for introverts.
- Improve social skills: The big secret to mutual love is to get better at dealing with people. That way, you’ll find it easier to make friends, know you can count on having a good time, and know you can always apologize if you don’t like the interaction.
- Create a positive social environment: When you’re around people you like, you love interacting with them and naturally develop extroverted behaviors and thoughts. Socializing becomes more enjoyable. It’s a pleasure to meet them, it’s a pleasure to meet them, and it makes it easier to meet new people in front of people you already like. On the other hand, avoid toxic people, enemies, and people who don’t encourage you and don’t want the best for you.
- Choose the right location: There are places and places you like. And there are places and places you don’t like. Solution? Simply increase the former and limit or eliminate the latter. If you don’t like clubs and noisy bars, avoid them. If you don’t, you will withdraw into your shell and tell yourself, “I’m not good with people.” And since you’re there, while you’re still on the introverted end of the spectrum, your party pals may not be your best match. On the other hand, very extroverts should avoid places that are probably best suited for introverts. If you don’t, you’ll keep telling yourself, “I need noise and people,” and won’t be able to put an end to extreme extroversion.
- Choose the right job: The stress therapy of “doing the opposite of what you want to grow and adapt to” has failed. Instead, it’s best to stretch in small steps. Below are a few careers that Ambiverts excels at. This allows you to move towards the middle of the spectrum gradually.
Sales positions: As we have seen, ambiverts are very good at selling. As a salesperson, you can tell that much of your time is spent preparing presentations, entering data, and managing open issues. It’s not just about talking to people.
Negotiation: The same applies to sales. I am good at asserting my needs and listening to others when necessary. Both are essential skills for effective negotiation.
Management: A boss who talks too much and doesn’t listen to reports is not good. Also, managers who hide behind big screens and create team barriers are usually not the most popular and effective leaders. The best managers know how to tread this path and get to the middle ground by being in leadership positions while trying to be the manager they can be.
Teachers and Educators: Teaching and teaching should also be combined with individual lesson preparation work, listening, and speaking time—another excellent carrier for ambiverts.
What are the Criticism of ambivalence?
There have also been criticisms of the concept of the amb version.
Both of the following criticisms deal with good points. To understand himself and gain deeper self-awareness and emotional intelligence, it’s essential to understand them before jumping on the ‘universe his train’ (yes, it’s good for him :).
I love socializing, but it’s exhausting: I’m still an introvert
For example, some psychologists say that people who enjoy socializing and talking to others but who are exhausted and need to “recharge” are not ambiverts.
They are simple introverts who like to socialize.
Love socializing but overwhelmed: still extroverted
In her book Quiet: The Power of Introverts, Susan Kane states that people who are highly sensitive to external stimuli tend to be introverts. However, there is another approach to this. And another approach is that sensitivity to external stimuli and extroversion are very different things.
Receptive people are overwhelmed by external stimuli. Too much light, too much noise, too many people…
But it has nothing to do with extroversion. So there can be extroverts who are easily overwhelmed, but that doesn’t mean they have an “introverted note” and are ambiverts.
It simply means that he is a very sensitive extrovert.
Ambiverts lie roughly in the middle of the extraverted continuum.
Their core strength lies in their ability to adapt to society. If you are an introvert, this is excellent news for you. If you haven’t already, you can train yourself to moderate your extremes, and your quality of life and socialization may improve dramatically.